Bella Vida Therapy

Molly Papp, MS, MPH, CSAT, LMFT #88196

Bella Vida Therapy

Molly Papp, LMFT

You deserve a beautiful life

Sex, intimacy, and relationship therapy

Birthdays

Remember being a kid and looking forward to your birthday all year? It was the one day where you could stuff your face with ice cream, pizza and cake and your mom would just smile and ask if you'd like more. It was your day. You got presents with shiny ribbons and could be as selfish as you wanted to be, no questions asked. But as you get older and pass the milestones of 16, 18, and 21, something weird happens. Birthdays no longer are looked forward to each year with eager anticipation. They're regarded with either apprehension or a "it's no big deal" attitude. And when you're with a partner, it's a whole different ballgame. What do you get them? As a woman, I find men to be incredibly hard to shop for. It's not like you can get them flowers and a shiny necklace and call it a day. If men want something, they buy it. So what do you get them for their birthday? Besides incredibly expensive toys like watches, shades, phones and cars, men don't lust for many things...besides women. That's why I recommend unconventional gifts for your significant other. Don't get me wrong, if your honey has been hinting that he/she wants a certain trinket for their birthday and it's not outrageous then be sweet and buy it for them. However, if they just say "You don't have to get me anything" or "I don't know, I don't need anything," then that's your cue to surprise them with something romantic that won't break the bank. Try a photo calendar they can keep on their desk at work, or a homemade mug with a sweet message on it. These things aren't expensive but I guarantee they will be remembered far longer than another bottle of cologne or pretty dress. Because at the end of the day, it's not our birthdays that we dread as we get older, it's that we won't have anyone to spend them with. If you remind your love that they're the most special person in your life, every day of the year? Now that's a great birthday gift.