Bella Vida Therapy

Molly Papp, MS, MPH, CSAT, LMFT #88196

Bella Vida Therapy

Molly Papp, LMFT

You deserve a beautiful life

Sex, intimacy, and relationship therapy

Fighting....yeah it sucks

Let's face it: fighting with your partner is not fun. It's frustrating to believe something that your love strongly doesn't believe, trying your best convincing them otherwise, and getting nowhere. Of course most people don't like fighting with their girlfriends or boyfriends. We want to have fun and laugh with our significant others- they're our partners in crime, not our adversaries. But life is rough and fights are bound to happen. Show me a couple that doesn't ever, EVER fight and I'll show you a dysfunctional relationship. Couples' fighting is normal, but that doesn't mean you have to like it. So how do you fight fairly and not have a fight ruin your night, or even possibly destroy your relationship? Tip #1: Sometimes it's best to just agree to disagree. You will not see eye to eye with your spouse about everything and that's okay. Tip #2: Go to your separate corners. After a fight, it's best to get some space from each other to cool off. Perspective isn't instantaneous, it takes awhile for you to realize what's really important. Tip #3: Apologize when you're wrong, but not if you don't mean it. Don't give in just to end an argument- if you do nothing will ever get settled and you'll be resentful and feel like a doormat. But do say you're sorry if you really did say or do something that was out of line. Remember that fighting stinks but is necessary to resolve conflicts sometimes. Also, there's nothing better than making up afterwards. :-)