My Philosophy on Therapy
My philosophy is simple: life is short. Why spend it being unhappy? You are worthy of love, but first you must learn how to love yourself. True happiness starts with forgiving yourself for your mistakes and embracing the positive things in your life.
There are only a few moments in life that define us. We can either chose to fight or give up and continue to live in misery. I believe that happiness is a choice. It's not always an easy one, but I help people learn that they don't have to be defined by their past. They can choose to live in the present and put the ghosts of the past to rest.
I also support recovery from addiction and believe it's 100% possible to escape its powerful pull. Addiction is a brain disease, which means it's not entirely your fault. However, there are things you can do to fight the disease and keep yourself as strong as possible.
I am specifically trained in treating sex and love addiction. If you are struggling with either of these problems know that there is hope. Using sex or love excessively as a way of feeling good is not healthy. I can help you learn how to have a better relationship with your sexuality to improve your sexual health both for yourself and your partner.
Finally, I support rebuilding trust after betrayal, either from sex or porn addiction or an affair. I believe marriage is a sacred thing not to be taken likely. That being said, both parties need to be willing to do the hard work to save their partnership. If you feel you and your mate have the love and commitment to withstand the terrible trauma of an affair, then there is hope for your marriage. Both partners will need to be completely honest and slowly work towards rebuilding trust.
My therapeutic style is eclectic. I use several methods based on what I think would most benefit you as the client. In general, I combine humanistic, client-centered therapy with cognitive behavioral therapy. This means that I don't talk over my clients. I let them lead the way and gently guide them towards realizing how their behavior is harming them and how they can make healthier choices.
I also help my clients with connecting the dots with how their childhood wounds are replicated in their current relationships. Often once you have the insight into how you are re-living the past you can stop attracting unhealthy people.