So I'm studying communication and why it's the MOST IMPORTANT thing in making a relationship last. If you can't communicate, you're doomed. Sorry to put it so bluntly, but it's true. What's funny is that, the more I learn about talking about your feelings, the more I find how hard it is for men to do that. For example, we did a group therapy session the other day. It was amazing- we went around a circle and discussed our childhoods, our insecurities, what makes us unique. I loved it, and so did the group of women in the group. But when I went home and tried asking my man the same questions- crickets. Now, I know all men are different and you can't really generalize. But let's just say that most men do not want to talk about how they "never really had a father" over tuna sashimi. It's not in their nature. Women, on the other hand, tell you more about their period before 10am than you ever need to know..ever. It's easy to get frustrated when you just want to know more about your guy, but you can't force intimacy or disclosure. Let it go. He'll open up when he's ready. Just be cool, easygoing, and don't pressure him. And don't focus on past relationships- it's not relevant. In my next post I'm going to discuss the ways to keep a long-term relationship together. It takes work, but it's so worth it. When you're sitting on the couch with your lover in pjs and a giant bowl of ice cream watching 'How I Met Your Mother' with a fat cat between the two of you- it's priceless. (Okay so I know that sounds pathetic, but it's not, it's a shared passion. You need those in relationships. For us, it's a TV show, for others, it's going out or running or cooking, etc..Hot sex can only sustain a couple for so long.)

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